I’ve never really had any stake – or indeed any interest – in the so called Sex Wars. There may be something to the whole Men Are From Uranus/Women Are From The 8th Dimension dichotomy that forms the basic template for sitcoms and daytime TV, but I’ve never really experienced it. Maybe it’s because I never did the singles bar scene (not successfully, anyway). Or it’s because I’m not big on sports. I don’t know.
However, The Daily Beast has this interesting he said/she said piece that tackles
one of the most important questions facing humanity today:
Who’s got it tougher in terms of societal pressure: the woman who’s called a slut for having too much casual sex? Or the guy who’s branded a loser for not having enough? Making the case for the gals:
Susannah Breslin of the
Reverse Cowgirl blog.
And for the blokes:
Grant Stoddard, author of
Working Stiff: The Misadventures of an Accidental Sexpert.
Personally, I think both sides have valid points, although I’m not sure they’re arguing about the same thing. And both of them ignore a ton of factors like cultural background and age. For example, women are under far more pressure in conservative societies like, say, Hong Kong than they are in, say, France. And guys are more likely to get crap about not getting laid during high school and college than they are later in life (unless they join the military, maybe).
That said, I'm inclined to believe that overall, women have a tougher time with the "slut" label than guys do with the "loser" label. And I was assigned the "loser" label for most of my adult life before I was married, so take it from me.
I could be wrong, of course. I usually am on matters like this. But maybe it doesn't matter which side has it tougher – maybe it's like the
Four Yorkshiremen arguing over who had the tougher upbringing. As
Bus Uncle once said, we all have our problems. And when it comes to sex,
it’s all relative.
Mostly.
Born to lose,
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