If you watch any of the cable TV news channels – or daytime talk shows – yr probably aware that teenage sexuality isn’t what it used to be. Thanks to Britney Spears, Web porn and prime time television, teens don’t have the hang-ups you do, which is why blowjobs are the new good-night kiss and hook-ups are the new dating, and – according to the “experts” – all of it leads to
emotional and psychological ruin.
Unless it actually
doesn’t – which is the conclusion of a study in Minnesota, which found that of more than 1,300 people in their late teens/early 20s, “the casual-sex havers were every bit as happy and healthy as the kids who were only doing it with a committed partner.”
There’s a lot of interesting findings, many to do with methodology:
It's as simple as the difference between of-the-moment gossip and a game of "Have You Ever". The Minnesota survey asked people to categorize their most recent sex partner. The earlier study asked whether they'd ever, at any time, got all up on someone they didn't know very well.
Both are legitimate questions. The problem is that they're often reported by the media as being the same question. And neither "Have you ever?" nor "What are you doing right now?" is really a great stand-in for the far more important, "What do you normally do?"
That matters because media reports tend to confuse trends with norms – just because you’ve done the hook-up thing once or twice doesn’t mean you do it exclusively. And that feeds the gap between myth and reality when it comes to addressing the teen sex issue – and giving teens useful information:
The result is that we, as a society, aren't addressing the things older teenagers and young adults really need to know, Dr. Santelli said. Americans start having sex at 17 and get married around 27, he said, but abstinence-based programs are presented as though getting married right out of high school is still the norm.
"We aren't providing realistic social models to young people. We need a healthy cohabitation program in America. And healthy relationship education," Dr. Santelli said. "We just say how wonderful marriage is. Abstinence programs are aimed toward getting you married at 20, not supporting you and helping you make healthy and smart choices as a single 20-something.”
But yes, I know, who can argue with
success? Besides, alarmist teen sex stories are Good Television because they trade on Fear Of Sex – a time-honored tradition in America, the Sexual Revolution and the American billion-dollar porn industry notwithstanding.
Just do it,
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