ARE YOU GOING TO EAT THAT?

[defrog]

Following up on the naughty poetry post – in which we learned that one man’s hot erotica is another man’s vomitfest – here’s an interesting post from Greta Christina [via Eros Blog, which is NSFW] on that very topic: sexual perspective.

Put country simple, when it comes to sex, you like what you like, but most of us lack the perspective to really accept the fact that other people like what you don’t like. Even if yr open minded enough to understand that some people like, say (let’s pick an obvious one) buttsecks, you can’t for the life of you see what’s so appealing about it.

Fairly obvious stuff – to me, anyway. And as Greta points out, we do the same thing with things like food and music – i.e. “How could you possibly eat broccoli/listen to Nickelback without spewing yr guts out?”

The difference, though, says Greta, is that we don’t put people in jail or send them to mental hospitals – or at least demand it – for liking broccoli or Nickelback.

Greta figures part of the reason is that we don’t talk about sexual fetishes as openly as we do about food and music:

People don’t come back to work on Mondays and chat about how they tried spanking over the weekend, the way they’ll chat about how they tried a new Moroccan restaurant or went to see a German funk band their brother told them about.

I reckon she’s got a point, though I think it’s something that’s going to take a very long time to accomplish. Apart from the obvious religious obstacles, one issue that makes it more complicated than food or music is that you may be speaking for someone besides yrself. You might be happy to tell yr workmates about this kinky new thing you tried with yr girlfriend/boyfriend/spouse/boss/secretary/whoever, but maybe the girlfriend/boyfriend/spouse/boss/secretary/whoever doesn’t want the whole neighborhood to know. Or vice versa. Which, incidentally, is one reason you don’t see any posts like that here. (The other being that what few readers I have would flee in awe and horror, never to be seen again.)

Plus, we’d never have another political sex scandal again, which would cause the mass media industry to collapse. So there’s an economic barrier right there. On the other hand, TV debate ratings would probably triple. “Senator, is it not true that the only reason you experimented with cock rings is because the Cock Ring Manufacturers Association included free samples with their generous campaign donations?” Yes. Imagine presidential debates sponsored by Adam & Eve and The Cone. [Void in Alabama, where they'll show reruns of Touched By An Angel instead.]

Seriously, though, there’s a lot of sociopolitical bugaboos to overcome before we get to the point where we can talk about sex as eclectically as we do about food and music. But I guess we have to start somewhere.

So. Who wants to go first?

I can wait all night,

This is dF