I didn’t keep up with too much news during my US travels – mainly because I spent 60% of it in Maryville-Alcoa, where if it’s not about church, college football or the weather, it doesn’t count as news, and partly because none of the hotels we stayed in had BBC World. Plus, I didn’t bring my laptop.
But on occasion – in airports and hotel lobbies equipped with flatscreens – I did see some headlines, a recurring one being the Tyler Clementi case, and a number of similar cases of bullying driving gay/lesbian students to suicide. And I confess to being both mystified and annoyed by the sudden desire by the media to parse the whole bullying issue as though it were anything new.
Because it’s not.
I’m not saying bullying isn’t a problem – it is, no matter what yr sexual orientation may be. The thing is, not only has it been a problem for generations, it’s also a problem that everyone already knows.
You can’t grow up in an education system and NOT know about it. Every student body in the world can be broken down into three basic groups: (1) the kids who get picked on, (2) the kids who pick on them and (3) the kids who stay on the sidelines and pretend to laugh at the victims to avoid becoming a target themselves.
You were there. You know the deal. You know how it works.
So I get irritated by these media circuses that take the Bloody Obvious and treat it like some new shocking epidemic, as if it’s only really a problem when students start killing themselves (and, on occasion, taking as many of their classmates as possible with them) – only to drop it a week later and move on to the next Big Story.
But then I was firmly in group (1) for most of my education, was also picked on for being gay (even though I wasn’t gay) from 8th grade on, and spent pretty much my entire post-primary education wishing desperately I had the nerve to kill myself. So I would say that, wouldn’t I?
Don’t get me wrong – it’s good that it’s being talked about, especially given the current climate of homophobia being fostered by the usual suspects who, predictably, claim that Tyler Clementi would still be alive today if only the Homosexuals and the Homosexual Agenda hadn’t encouraged him to be gay in the first place.
I just think it’ll take more than Anderson Cooper holding town hall meetings to deal with such things, because from my POV, lack of awareness is not the problem. The problem is that too many people are part of the problem but pretend it’s someone else’s problem.
Not that I have any brilliant solution on how to tackle the bullying issue. But I’m pretty sure that separate schools for gay students isn’t it.
Three o’clock high,
This is dF
But on occasion – in airports and hotel lobbies equipped with flatscreens – I did see some headlines, a recurring one being the Tyler Clementi case, and a number of similar cases of bullying driving gay/lesbian students to suicide. And I confess to being both mystified and annoyed by the sudden desire by the media to parse the whole bullying issue as though it were anything new.
Because it’s not.
I’m not saying bullying isn’t a problem – it is, no matter what yr sexual orientation may be. The thing is, not only has it been a problem for generations, it’s also a problem that everyone already knows.
You can’t grow up in an education system and NOT know about it. Every student body in the world can be broken down into three basic groups: (1) the kids who get picked on, (2) the kids who pick on them and (3) the kids who stay on the sidelines and pretend to laugh at the victims to avoid becoming a target themselves.
You were there. You know the deal. You know how it works.
So I get irritated by these media circuses that take the Bloody Obvious and treat it like some new shocking epidemic, as if it’s only really a problem when students start killing themselves (and, on occasion, taking as many of their classmates as possible with them) – only to drop it a week later and move on to the next Big Story.
But then I was firmly in group (1) for most of my education, was also picked on for being gay (even though I wasn’t gay) from 8th grade on, and spent pretty much my entire post-primary education wishing desperately I had the nerve to kill myself. So I would say that, wouldn’t I?
Don’t get me wrong – it’s good that it’s being talked about, especially given the current climate of homophobia being fostered by the usual suspects who, predictably, claim that Tyler Clementi would still be alive today if only the Homosexuals and the Homosexual Agenda hadn’t encouraged him to be gay in the first place.
I just think it’ll take more than Anderson Cooper holding town hall meetings to deal with such things, because from my POV, lack of awareness is not the problem. The problem is that too many people are part of the problem but pretend it’s someone else’s problem.
Not that I have any brilliant solution on how to tackle the bullying issue. But I’m pretty sure that separate schools for gay students isn’t it.
Three o’clock high,
This is dF